How to heal suicidal depression with Family Constellations a new approach to healing the heart
Healing suicidal depression with Family Constellations is a truly effective way to overcome a desire to die. I know this for a fact because I navigated out of my own personal battle with suicidal depression when I discovered Constellation’s work back in 2015. After spending countless hours searching for and sitting with one-on-one therapists who charged extremely high prices for fifty-minute sessions I discovered that talking about my life situation was not really relieving my pain. Trying to talk through my despair made me feel like I was constantly circling the airport and never arriving at a resolution. A growing desire to finally land, heal, and thrive was mounting, along with my therapy bills.
The high cost of receiving one-on-one support nearly neutralized the benefits of that support which, in turn, only delayed my ability to shift my spirits up to higher ground. There are so many layers of frustration to be found in the traditional approaches to emotional healing. Because of this, many people conclude there is no way out of their pain. This is a tragedy I’ve dedicated my life to trying to prevent. Depression is curable. Every living being on Earth is a natural healer who can learn to follow the movement of their own soul’s journey towards a joyful life. Anyone can heal from any blow. That may involve a total transformation of self or it may involve a series of adjustments. However complex the process may be, staying the course is the only truly valuable act you could devote your life to.
Healing is a complex and diverse social process.
Very often, a desire to die is not something you are individually able to speak about, not because you do not have words to describe your situation. But because you may not be aware of the larger energy context you exist in that is causing those feelings. Such extreme feelings of wanting to die could not possibly have started with you alone. Those feelings arose from conditions that were shaped long before you found yourself in the middle of them.
When I first began my journey to heal a suicidal impulse, I found that our culture is actually terrified of people who have a desire to die. When I spoke aloud of these feelings I was battling, I was often ushered quickly to doctors who wanted to ply me with medications that would shut down those feelings or at least get me to stop vocalizing them. My “medical files” were flagged as dangerous and the doctors themselves contributed to a pathologizing of a pretty common and very natural thought process. As I tracked the truth of my feelings I realized that the current medical system made me feel small and powerless. The realization that mainstream doctors and mainstream treatments were not really helpful enabled me to extricate myself from an unhealthy medical system. That act of defiance and self-assertion led me to discover a truly effective way to heal suicidal depression with Family Constellations work.
A desire to die is nothing to be afraid of.
Learning how to hold space for big feelings of despair is the only way to actually find relief for those feelings. This cultural phobia of suicidal depression deserves deeper consideration. Dying is going to eventually happen. And after I was able to transform my mental anguish into constructive energy through Family Constellations work, I found there was value in having a part of me who is not only not afraid to die but in some ways ready to do so. That part of me has a very practical perspective that will eventually be quite helpful when it is time to transition. But suicidal depression is not really a desire to die, it is a desire for the mental pain we are suffering to end. Being alive is hard. Feeling exhausted and worn down is going to happen. It is not possible to avoid hard blows that knock you fully down. Getting up is not always so straightforward. If you struggle with debilitating despair, if you find the bottom keeps dropping out of all your motivations for pursuing activities and goals, I want to assure you that it is possible to heal from that state of despair. A desire to die is really only an overwhelmed desire for the pain to end. Shifting out of the headspace of despair permanently is more than just possible, it is inevitable when we learn how to get out of the way and let our inherent healing abilities lead the way.
I offer methods for healing suicidal depression with Family Constellations workshops in Los Angeles. I do not just believe in the power of this healing method, I know from experience that it works. Join our next workshop and give this resource a try.
What is Family Constellations Work, you ask? Here is an interview I gave with Melanie Curtin on her podcast: “Dear Men,” where I share a little bit more about my own healing journey and how a Family Constellations workshop can help get to the heart of any issue.
It is my belief that the Family Constellations approach to healing will prevail and thrive in our culture because it is social, creative, powerful, and just plain fun to engage.
Listen to the Interview: A Conversation on how to find real solutions to painful problems.
Most men I work with want a healthy, happy love relationship. Yet it often feels like there’s something in the way — some kind of block or sense that there’s something “wrong.” This can even provoke the kind of loneliness that leads to thoughts of suicide.
If this is you, then one thing to include in your awareness is your family lineage. You likely know your parents had a massive impact on who you became. But did you know you can carry legacy burdens from grandparents and even older ancestors?
Family constellations, or family systems constellations, is one of the deepest and most profound modalities I’ve ever come across. It’s a kind of somatic therapy — a way of healing on a body level, in community. Listen to learn how family constellations can help with chronic and seemingly intractable patterns like attachment issues, feelings of isolation and abandonment, and even the desire to die.
Melanie Curtin is a sex & relationship coach who is committed to helping people have thriving sex & love lives. She works with men and couples ready to evolve past old patterns and connect in ways that lead to hotter sex and closer intimacy. Featured on TODAY, HuffPost, Inc.com, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more. Melanie is creating a powerful and relevant conversation about achieving healthy love, sex, and intimacy in today’s modern world.